Hello, Conscious Parent! Welcome to “Dear Katherine,” a Q&A with real-life parents/caregivers. If you’d like to submit a question of your own, email me at firstname.lastname@example.org.
My 10-year-old daughter and I recently had a bit of an altercation. It all started when my two daughters got into an argument over a dress. The younger one really wanted to borrow it, and their disagreement spilled over into my work-from-home space. To be completely honest, I was swamped with looming deadlines and was just about to hop on an important call. In the midst of this chaos, I made a quick decision and told my older daughter to let her younger sister borrow the dress.
In response, my older daughter burst into tears and yelled at me, insisting that I didn’t take her feelings seriously.
Needless to say, I’m utterly devastated. As a parent, I never want my kids to feel dismissed or unheard. So, I turn to you, Dear Katherine, seeking guidance on how to navigate this challenging situation.
— A Parent Trying to Balance Serious Responsibilities
Dear Very Serious (But Very Busy) Parent,
I can certainly empathize with your predicament. As a working mom myself, I’ve experienced the constant juggling act of balancing work commitments with the needs of my children. I understand what it’s like to feel stressed and overwhelmed, struggling to find that precious undivided attention for our kids.
I want you to know that it’s clear you didn’t intend to come off as dismissive. Your immediate reaction, filled with regret and sorrow, reflects your sincere commitment as a parent who deeply cares about doing right by your children.
It’s essential to recognize that parents, just like anyone else, are imperfect individuals navigating an imperfect world. However, despite life’s imperfections, it remains our fundamental duty to create a nurturing and secure environment where our children feel truly seen, heard, and supported. Read my five key practices that can help your child:
It’s important to remember that parenting is a journey filled with its share of challenges and imperfections. As caregivers, we often find ourselves straddling the demands of our daily lives while striving to provide the love and support our children need. The situation you described, like many others, was undoubtedly a moment of stress and chaos.
However, it’s through such moments that we have the opportunity to strengthen the bonds with our children. By acknowledging their emotions, offering genuine apologies, and making intentional efforts to provide undivided attention, we can create an environment where our children feel valued, heard, and supported. This is the essence of conscious parenting—a journey where we continuously learn and grow alongside our children, nurturing not only their emotions but also the profound connections that make our families strong. Keep these practices in your heart, and you’ll find yourself on a path of fostering deep understanding and resilience within your family.
Love and Blessings,
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