
Are you wondering why your teen suddenly wants nothing to do with you?
Your sweet child who once made you rub their back every night until they fell asleep may now barely even want to be seen with you. This is part of a complex developmental stage known as individuation.
It’s Not You, It’s Individuation
According to physician and psychiatrist Margaret Mahler, a child’s life begins in a symbiotic relationship with their primary caregiver before they eventually realize their separateness and form an autonomous identity.
This process of individuation often shows up through classic adolescent behavior: needing more space, prioritizing peers, and expressing strong emotions.
As hard as it can be to feel your child pulling away, remember that this is a natural and necessary part of growing up. Your teen is learning to develop independence, identity, and inner direction. What they need most from you right now is understanding and support as they practice standing on their own.

Growing Together Through Change
Individuation doesn’t mean you’re losing your teen; it means both of you are growing. Your teen is discovering who they are, and you are learning how to love them in new ways. This season invites you to release control and nurture connection.
The Conscious Parenting Revolution reminds us that when we respond with understanding instead of knee jerk reaction, we create the foundation for lifelong trust and mutual respect. Through conscious awareness, the bond you share with your teen can deepen even as they seek independence.
Love and Blessings,
Katherine Sellery
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