Navigating Conscious Parenting this Holiday Season

Dear Katherine,

In the midst of the holiday hustle, it’s crucial to keep things stress-free. This year marks our first holiday season within the Conscious Parenting Revolution, and the concerns are piling up. “Feeling Shy” shares worries about navigating extended family dynamics and potential clashes in parenting styles during the Christmas gathering.

Sincerely,
Feeling Shy

Feeling Shy, you certainly aren’t the first parent to express these concerns to me. 

It’s easy to feel self-conscious around family during the holidays. Family gatherings can be exciting, over-stimulating—and, yes, stressful—for everyone. Feeling the watchful eyes of parents, in-laws, and extended family is sure to make even the most confident parents nervous. 

Unfortunately, if a family member is close-minded about conscious parenting, there’s little you can do to change their mind. It’s in your own best interest to accept that fact ahead of time.

1. Prioritize Connection Over Correction
The holidays can amplify differences in parenting approaches. Instead of correcting others, focus on fostering connection. Engage with curiosity and compassion rather than judgment, modeling the principles of collaboration and understanding for your children.

2. Create Space for Honest Expression
When tensions rise, use tools like “Discover the Problem Behind the Problem” to navigate conversations. This approach helps uncover the underlying needs driving behaviors without escalating conflicts. Creating this safe space encourages deeper understanding among family members.

3. Protect Your Energy with Boundaries
Family dynamics can be unpredictable. Stay grounded by setting healthy boundaries. If discussions become heated, gently steer the conversation in a more positive direction. Personal self-care, such as a quick walk or breathing exercises, can help you maintain calm and focus.

4. Navigate Parenting Moments with Privacy
If your child acts out, consider addressing the situation in private rather than in front of an audience. This approach not only reduces external judgment but also creates a supportive environment where your child feels safe to express themselves.

Remember, holiday stress doesn’t have to overshadow your celebrations. By practicing conscious parenting principles, you’re not only nurturing your family’s well-being but also demonstrating a compassionate way forward for others. You can’t control how relatives respond to your parenting style, but you can create an environment that reflects your values of love and respect.

As for feeling uncomfortable parenting your child in front of others, I suggest that you avoid having an audience altogether if possible. 

If your child acts out during your celebration, it’s in everyone’s best interest to talk about what happened in private. Take them to a quiet room or outside (weather-permitting) to have your conversation.

You can’t control the actions or opinions of others, but you can prepare yourself and your kids to respond appropriately. 

Wishing you a joyful, stress-free holiday season filled with meaningful connections and shared growth!


Love and Blessings,
Katherine