What Every Parent Needs To Know

Katherine has helped thousands of parents create stronger relationships with their kids with strategies that create deeper connection, cultivate effective healthier communication based in love, care and mutual respect.

Katherine has helped thousands of parents
create stronger relationships with their kids with strategies that improve communication and respect.

What Every Parent Needs To Know

Katherine has helped thousands of parents create stronger relationships with their kids with strategies that improve communication and respect.

Katherine has helped thousands of parents
create stronger relationships with their kids with strategies that improve communication and respect.

When your child refuses to clean up after themselves or assist with household duties, it can be stressful as a parent. With so much on their plate already, it can often feel like too much for parents when they have to fight their child for everything. In this post, we will cover some reasons why children may struggle to clean their rooms, and offer some advice for parents on how to collaborate more effectively! 

How To Get Your Stubborn Kid To Clean Up

Decide on standards and communication.
When cleaning up after themselves and performing tasks, it's critical to establish clear expectations with your child. Ensure they understand what is being asked of them and what natural consequences occur if they choose not to participate. 

Funnel it out
Doing chores and cleaning up doesn't have to be difficult. Make it enjoyable by making it into a game or a contest. Assign each family member a task, and see who finishes it earliest. Or set a timer and see who can clean up the most quickly.

Set an example.
Children learn through imitation, so it's crucial to set a good example for them if you want them to perform their duties and clean up after themselves. Make sure you're contributing and finishing your own household chores. This will demonstrate to your youngster that doing tasks and cleaning up after yourself is a regular part of life.

Offer them options
Children enjoy having a sense of control over their lives. Give your child options for doing their chores and cleaning up after themselves. Give them the option to select between two chores, for instance, or allow them to decide which task to complete first. They will feel more in control as a result, which will increase their willingness to participate.

Make it a regular part of their day.
Make completing chores and cleaning up a regular part of your child's day. Set aside a certain time each day, such as right after supper or right before night, for them to finish their responsibilities. They will become accustomed to taking responsibility as a result of this.

Age-appropriateness is key
Make sure the tasks you provide your child are manageable and suitable for their age. While older children are capable of handling more difficult tasks, younger children may require more direction and assistance. Adapt the assignments to your child's age and skills.

Use the outcomes of nature
The natural consequences of not cleaning up after themselves can sometimes be the best method to teach your child the importance of doing their duties and cleaning up after themselves.

In conclusion, it is feasible to engage your child to complete their tasks and clean up after themselves if you are patient and encouraging. Give them choices, set reasonable expectations, make it exciting, make it part of their routine, make it age-appropriate, and utilize natural consequences. You can instil in your youngster the importance of responsibility and helping out around the house with some time and effort.

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Katherine Winter-Sellery is one of the creators of the Guidance Approach to Parenting, a program that applies conflict resolution skills to communicating more effectively with children.


Through her popular workshops, TEDx talks, and her book, she has taught thousands of parents (and educators, social workers, medical professionals, and anyone else needing to converse with 5-year-olds to 95-year-old children) in a half dozen countries and cultures.

Her aim is to minimize misunderstandings and melt-downs and communicate with more collaboration, cooperation, and consideration.

Her methods have positively influenced relationships for generations and brought about healing and reconciliation in families that were suffering from disconnection.


Katherine Winter-Sellery is one of the creators of the Guidance Approach to Parenting, a program that applies conflict resolution skills to communicating more effectively with children.

Through her popular workshops, TEDx talks, and her book, she has taught thousands of parents (and educators, social workers, medical professionals, and anyone else needing to converse with 5-year-olds to 95-year-old children) in a half dozen countries and cultures.

Her aim is to minimize misunderstandings and melt-downs and communicate with more collaboration, cooperation, and consideration.

Her methods have positively influenced relationships for generations and brought about healing and reconciliation in families that were suffering from disconnection.


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